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Thursday, 22.Jul.2004

13:10 - do I have "ATM" tattooed on my forehead?! // bitching

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I must look like the biggest damn sucker on the face of the planet or something.

Yesterday I stopped off at the quickemart for an It's It on the way home (I have a weakness for sweets, as many of you allready know). A youth was ahead of me in line, and got a pack of cigarretts (actually, those mini-Cigars that are so popular these days) and went on his way. Outside, in the parking lot, I saw him and his friends smoking and as I passed they asked me for some spare change. When I said no, they asked if they could have some of my ice cream instead! WTF? I just saw you spend money on tobacco, and you expect me to give you more money or share my ice cream with you!?

Just now, a young lady stopped me in the halls and asked if I had change for a five. I got my wallet out to check, and exhibited that I only had one dollar left. She expressed an "oh well, I'll go ask the next person" kind of sigh, then asked me if she could have the one dollar I had left! WTF?! It's my last dollar, and you want it? This goes beyond asking for spare change, now you're asking for bills (sure, you can't get much for a dollar (other than a long distance call) but still) -- and the last of the money I have on me, at that!

This type of shit is happening more and more these days. Random people who are obviously not hurting for cash will ask me for all sorts of money just walking around on the street. What has happened to the societal values that makes them think it's perfectly fine to ask any random person for money? Even asking for spare change is, in my opinion, not acceptable, but to go about asking for bills is just obscene!

Note, I will give spare change to regular homeles (those you see wandering the streets day after day and it's clear they are genuinely homeless) without them even really having to ask. I'll give bills to street performers (they are providing a service, playing music or whatever) and I've been known to give $10 to a guy for windexing the windows on the car I was driving while it was parked outside a store (again, providing a service).

What I fail to see, though, is how this has somehow caused some folk these days to think it's okay for them to ask for money even when they don't need it or have any immediate plans for it.

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From:noodlboy
Date:14:23 22.Jul.2004 (UTC)
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You know what's really fun? You mention that you will give money to people who are providing a service. When people as you for change, ask them to provide you a service. A moment of entertainment. Ask them to do something simple and quick, but that will make you smile. Say, "Sure, I have a quarter. You can have it if you'll sing me a song." Or, "Yes, I have spare change, but you need to bark like a squirrel". Some people feel that I'm asking them to humiliate themselves for my entertainment, but that is sooo not the case. They have already humiliated themselves by asking for free money. I wouldn't ask them to do anything that I wouldn't be willing to do myself. If they don't know how to bark like a squirrel, I'd be happy to demonstrate for them. But damn it! I want some entertainment for my hard earned cash!
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From:lograh
Date:14:39 22.Jul.2004 (UTC)
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hrmm.. I'll have to try that.. I'll more likely do the "sing a song" option (as I couldn't easilly give a good example of a barking squirrel). or perhaps I'll carry around some tennis balls and ask them to juggle for a bit.

Ooohhh, I've got it! I'll ask them to philosophize with me on a relatively simple topic. :) "sure, I've got some change, what do you think about existance?"
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From:jimbo_the_gecko
Date:7:59 23.Jul.2004 (UTC)
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That is my own personal rule governing to whom I will give money. Thre are a lot of homeless people here in San Diego, but some are actually trying harder to earn the money. Others are just lazy and/or drunk.
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From:serenica69
Date:15:19 22.Jul.2004 (UTC)

do I look like I have "free blow jobs" tattooed to my forehead?

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Oh yeah. It could be worse. I'm still amazed from the day I was walking around with my friend Nicole and these 2 guys came up to us and asked "Hey - are you giving out free blow jobs?" as if it were a perfectly reasonable request. Hello - for free?? I don't think so.

I wonder what their success rate with that question was.
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From:lograh
Date:16:29 22.Jul.2004 (UTC)

WTF?!

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that's just fucked. there is something seriously screwed up in the socialization process these days if people are thinking these are actually reasonable requests.

I guess it's just one of the problems with an increasing population: while the precentage of the population that is idiots may remain constant, the incedence of exposure to idiots increases.
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From:aaangyl
Date:19:34 22.Jul.2004 (UTC)
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One thing I noticed about Cali straightaway when I moved here was how much more of a sense of entitlement people here seem to have. Okay, maybe that's not quite the right word, but Californians seem to feel absolutely no sense of remorse over asking people to go way out of their way for something that benefits them, even if they'd never do it themself. People who are better off than you in some cases try to pay their part of the dinner bill without including any tip or covering the alcohol they had. Students who have plenty of free time they could be spending at a part-time job will ask you for money so they can take a vacation or buy someone else a present. It's not everyone everywhere or anything, but it definitely seems to be an unusually common attitude out here, and I have no idea where it comes from.
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From:jimbo_the_gecko
Date:8:07 23.Jul.2004 (UTC)
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I've got a good one for you:
About a year ago I was walking along the street in a pretty trendy/restaurant-y part of town here (called Hillcrest, for those interested), and a scruffy looking guy swathes up to me, emitting fumes that my truck could run on, and asks for some money (the trend in S.CA is to ask for specific dollar amounts,a nd this man asked for $3, which I thounk is pretty audacious all by itself). In my typical fashion, I pull out my wallet and prove to him that I have no money (as I hardly ever carry cash), and this man actually suggested that I turn around, and walk the OTHER DIRECTION to an ATM with him to get out some money for my donation. Of course, this now implies that he is asking for $20, and my trouble of going the opposite direction of my intent.

When I politely refused, I was introduced to a whole vocabulary of colorful metaphors and rather uncomfortable-sounding sexual inuendos, many of which had never occurred to me before. I guess, somehow, I offendded him greatly by not giving him $20.

Is there still room for me up in OR? I don't know how much more CA I can take! : )
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